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What is grief ?
Grief is as unique as you are, each person will be affected in their own way and everyone is different, meaning that everyone will deal with grief in a different way. Each person in a family, had their own relationship to their loved one. People have their own way of expressing feelings, some people may find it helpful to share thoughts and feelings, where as some people may struggle. It may be hard to show emotion, cry or explain how you are feeling. You may find that people suggest how you are or should be feeling, however we would like to remind you that there are no set rules or order to the grieving process.
The grieving process
When someone dies you can be left with overwhelming mixture of feelings and thoughts. some of the emotions commonly felt when someone you care about dies are
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Anger- you may be angry with the person for dying and leaving so much pain behind or because you have been left to deal with lots of practical matters and you feel ill prepared. anger can occasionally feel overwhelming and can last, or go and then return for a long times.
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Defensiveness- the uncertainty over how people will react can lead you to put up defences against you, incase they say something upsetting or ask intrusive questions.
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Depression & anxiety- sometimes people feel theyr'e losing control because their grief is so intense. These feelings may vary. you may find it helpful to speak to your GP if these feelings intensify.
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Despair- often people wonder whether they can cope living without their loved one. For some this may be a passing thought, others could struggle and it may linger for some time.
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Disbelief- some people find it hard to accept their loved one will no longer be in their life. Feelings such as this may fade as the reality of their passing resonates. You may find yourself doubting what has happened for some time.
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Fear- grief can be frightening uncertain because everything around you has changed. People worry about what life will be like without their loved one and the impact their death will have on others around them, it can be difficult to imagine a different future.
Useful Links
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https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereavement
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https://www.thegoodgrieftrust.org/
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https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helplines/
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https://muslimcommunityhelpline.org.uk/
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https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/talk-us-phone/
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https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/
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https://www.ageuk.org.uk/contact-us/
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https://www.childbereavementuk.org/
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